Or Do They Undo You? Resolution-Schmesolution
I read the other day that after 14 days, we lose our resolve to maintain our resolutions. After I thought about that one for a minute…I thought, WAIT!!!! IT TAKES 21 DAYS TO MAKE A HABIT!!!! Great. Screwed before we start! Add to that, it takes about 60 days to really feel the benefit of the changes we are making, what’s the point? Why bother making a resolution? Are we just setting ourselves up to fail? Hmmm…probably.
I mean, I’m sure there are many diligent, laser focused, people who can make a resolution and stick to it long enough for it to become a habit. Maybe that’s you? Well, I can tell you this much: IT ISN’T ME! All the lists in the world, calendars, appointment books, reminder apps can’t get me to do something…it’s almost as if there’s a little “guy” in my head saying…”DON’T LET THEM TELL YOU WHAT TO DO!!!” Then I don’t.
What do I do?
I’ll tell you, my life has been a bit of a roller coaster, there have been ups and downs, shifts and changes…one minute I’m a “tax guy”, and the next minute an “energy worker”, a “light worker”, an “oracle reader”…even the dreaded word: “psychic” or “intuitive” would apply. I’ve struggled with my weight, my attitude, my sensitivity to energy. I’ve been the person who will give both barrels to the person who delivers the last straw. I am responsible for my household, taking care of everything in it. I wouldn’t call my life filled with ease.
Here is the thing…when I would “take someone apart”, for some sort of transgression (usually directed toward a loved one, rather than myself), it always felt good in the moment. But NEVER felt good after. I would leave places with big crowds with a headache and an attitude problem. So what does this have to do with resolutions? Well, I think if we create resolutions that are doable, that we can maintain, SMALL resolutions can lead to bigger successes.
Instead of resolving to “lose weight”, resolve to park farther away from the stores and walk more. Instead of resolving to “meditate every day”, resolve to choose 1 or 2 times a week where you can spend 10 or 15 minutes with your thoughts. If you want to eat better, and you eat well 20 percent of the time now, resolve to increase that to 30 percent (2 extra meals per week) until you have that down, and increase it to 40 percent. Schedule an energy balancing session. Find some time to spend in nature, make it a “deal breaker”, or “non-negotiable”. Book it in that calendar, if you have one. (I’ve had to move into the 21st century and use the calendar on my phone…ugh.)
Set yourself up for success!
There are so many cliche’s, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” “Put the mask on yourself first.” Yet, society tells us if we do that, we are “selfish” or “self-centered”. No, selfish is believing that all of the abundance in the world belongs to you. That there is never enough to share. Taking care of yourself is NOT selfish, it is necessary. It is important, It is a must. Don’t you think?
If you’re local, check out some of the events at the space…a perfect way to put yourself first. @lastingserenity